人生从来就不是戏

其实，不管是名人还是普通人，说过的话，做过的事，终究只能代表他自己。同时，这些说过的话，做过的事，放在特定的时间和环境里，也许是正确的，离开了这个人、这个时间，或者是在一个不同的环境里，可能就是谬误。任何真理都有被颠覆的可能，何况人对生活的认识，同样的一个人，在不同的时期，对人生也会有不同的解读。

所谓人生如戏，应该是经历过人生的许多磨难，饱经沧桑之后得出的结论。不是身临其境的人，是不可能体会得到那种感受的。我们之所以赞同，除了它确实让我们感受到人生的无奈，更有我们对名人所说的一切盲目认同的因素在里边。

按照我对人生的理解，戏可以如人生，人生却未必如戏。就好像我们可以说儿子像父亲，但不能说父亲像儿子一样。戏是一门艺术，而艺术虽源自于生活，但又高于生活。戏是对人生的演绎，人生则为戏提供了素材和灵感。这些，才是戏与人生的关系。

说人生如戏，每个人就应该有自己的角色，只要认真去演绎、发挥就行了。但是，人生岂止是这么简单。人生活于这个世界，实际上更像是一幅拼图，每个人都有自己的位置。这个位置也许是与生俱来的，只是我们不知道它在哪里，需要每个人自己去寻找。有的人穷其一生，可能都找不到自己的位置，最终一事无成。有的人很快就找到了属于自己的位置，取得了让人羡慕的成就。只有当每个人都找到了自己的位置，世界才会变成一幅完整的图画。

每个人在他的人生当中，都不可能从一开始就抱着演戏的心态。否则，人的一生不仅会少了许多的传奇，也会少了许多的生趣。只有在我们的追求落空了，希望破灭了之后，才如大梦初醒一般，原来一切都不过是过眼烟云，当不得真的，就像看了一场戏。

不可否认，这个世界确实有人在演戏，也有人在看戏，但不能因此就断定人生如戏，世事如棋。戏是虚幻的，而生活却是真实的；戏可以重排，而人生不可再来；戏是生活的浓缩，而人生则远比戏来得精彩。

俗话说，演戏的是疯子，看戏的是傻子。我们不是疯子，不会为了演戏而随意挥霍自己的人生，但却不妨做一回傻子，在我们无法改变自己命运的时候，就让自己当一个旁观者。这不是逃避，而是清醒。因为清醒，可以看风使舵，但不会随波逐流。

我们可以把人生当作一个舞台，也可以通过戏去诠释自己对人生的理解。只是，戏如人生，我们却不可以将人生当做了演戏，更不可以游戏人生。人生之路漫长，适当的做一下戏也未尝不可，但那只是我们为了松弛紧绷的神经，达到某种目的而采取的一种策略，演戏是获利的手段，而非生活的全部，更非人生的目的。

有人说，人生就是一个大舞台，心有多大，舞台就有多大。我们且不去理会它对人生的看法是否正确，只看这句话本身，就存在着唯心的地方。心的世界可以无限大，大到连我们自己都觉得没有止境，走在心的世界，没有人知道边际在哪里。而世界给予我们的舞台，不可能是无限宽广的，如何在有限的空间里，竭尽我们的所能，实现理想的最大化，才是我们所追求的目标。

世界是物质的，而我们的心是精神的，心绝对无法决定世界的大小，而世界却可以让我们的心按照它的大小和节奏来跳动。离开了实际的幻想，无论它是多么的美好，只会让我们徒叹奈何，徒增烦恼。我们能做的，是让我们的心，不断地去适应环境的变化，世界给予我们的舞台有多大，就让我们的心有多大，如此才是脚踏实地的做法。

戏如人生，但人生从来就不是戏，也没有任何理由让我们嬉戏人生。戏不能取代人生，人生却可以让戏更精彩。对于戏来说，我们可以是编剧，但不应该是演员。

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON ?

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON 

IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND ♥

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, 'How
do I know if I married the right person?'

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It
depends. Is that your husband?'

In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing
on your mind.

Here's the answer.
*EVERY *relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with
your spouse/partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and
liked their
*idiosyncrasies *(unconventional behavior/habit).

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely
natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to
*DO* anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's
happening *TO YOU*.

People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept off my feet.' Think about the
imagery of that __expression.
It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then
something came along and happened
*TO YOU*.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But
after a few years of marriage, the *euphoria *(excitement) of love fades.
It's the natural cycle of *EVERY *relationship. Slowly but surely, phone
calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome
(when it happens), and your spouse's
*idiosyncrasies*, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think
about your marriage, you will
notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love
and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the
right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the
*euphoria* of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience
with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their
spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for
fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the
most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,
a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does *NOT* lie outside your marriage. It lies
within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone
else.
You could.

And *TEMPORARILY* you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a
few years later. *Because* (listen carefully to this):

*THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S
LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
*
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll
*NEVER*just happen to you. You can't 'find'
*LASTING* love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have
the __expression 'the labor of love.'
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes *
WISDOM*. You have to know *WHAT TO DO* to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is *NOT *a mystery. There are specific things
you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are
also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger,
certain habits in your relationship
*WILL* make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you
know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make'
love.

Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... *Not* just a feeling.

Remember this always:

*'God determines who walks
into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let
stay, and who you refuse to let go.'

  

** Just an article i've read... tot of sharing wit u guys coz i think it pretty good..
Doesnt matter whether u're married or single...
just something meaningful perhaps u can share it with ur married frens after u've read it  :) **